Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Life Is Fragile

Life is fragile ~ these were the words of my
dear husband one morning
as we sat talking about life ~ life as
it now is after loosing  my dad.
"When you're young you know life is fragile,
you just don't know how fragile it really is
until you get older to appreciate it."

For some time now I have been pondering life,
but since my dad was called home to be with 
the Lord, my thoughts have run deep.
I shared from Ecclesiastes 3
in my last post
"To everything there is a season,
and each season (or time of life) will soon pass.
There really is a time limit
on everything in this life,
and time belongs to God.


I am reminded of Ephesians 5:15-17
"See that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools,
but as wise, redeeming the time,
because the days are evil.
Wherefore, be ye not unwise, but understanding
what the will of the Lord is."

God has numbered each person's days.
"So teach us to number our days,
that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom."
(Psalm 90:12)
~ You may want to read verses 7 through 12 of Psalm 90 ~
Events can take place in our lives
which can cause us to seriously reflect on our life.
God's Word teaches us to take inventory regarding
how we are spending our days.
There's no going back.
Because our lifetimes are limited,
we should view each day as a precious gift
to be lived wisely and according to the will of God.
Time on this earth is short,
and as God's people we are to invest
our days so they will count for eternity
and to the glory of God.

"Lord make me to know my end,
and what is the measure of my days,
that I may know how frail I am.
Indeed You have made my days as handbreadths,
and my age is as nothing before You;
Certainly every man at his best state is but vapor."
(Psalm 39:4&5)
I researched  "handbreadths" and it is
the measure from the thumb to the little finger.
WOW! How descriptive in showing us how short
our lives really are!


James 4:14 is so clear ~
For what is your life?
We do not know what will happen tomorrow.
We are as a vapor that appears for a little while
and then vanishes away.
We have no certainty of tomorrow.
"As for man, his days are like grass;
as a flower of the field,
so he flourishes.
For the wind passes over it,
and it is gone."
(Psalm 103:15&16)
Life is fragile ~ the Psalmist David in Psalm 39
knew how frail he was.
One day we're "flourishing" and the next we're "gone"

Are we living our lives redeeming the time
and understanding what the will of the Lord is?
Are we making every moment count for God?
Is there sweetness on our lips as we speak to others,
for they could be our last words spoken?
"Lord make me to know my end."
If we only knew what the next moment held for us in our lives,
would we do things differently?
I'm sure we could all say we would.
Oh Lord, help us to live as if this moment was our last,
and all to Your glory ~ Because there is no going back.

On the night before my dad's open heart surgery
all things were as usual.
Dad went and prepared himself for bed,
except, this night he wasn't feeling well.
He was weak and slow moving, quite tired
by the time his head reached his pillow.
I stood at his bedside and spoke words of comfort trying to encourage him
and reassuring him that due to his heart condition
that was likely why he was so tired.
Mom was next to use the bathroom, and then myself.
Their bathroom was off their bedroom
in their cute and cozy little winter getaway
where I stayed when visiting.
After getting ready for bed myself ~ I walked
through their bedroom, stopped and said my
good-night words of love ~ gave good-night kisses and hugs,
then turned out the lights believing my dad
was going to be a "new man"
with a new heart after his successful surgery the following day.

James tells us that we "know not what shall be on the morrow."
I'm thankful mom and dad didn't go to bed that evening
without my good-night love for them.
But had I known what the future held,
and that my dad would not wake up from the surgery,
would I have said more? Would I have taken extra time with him?
God doesn't allow us a glimpse into the future ~
But He does command us to live our lives
to His glory.
"Whether therefore ye eat, or drink,
or whatsoever ye do,
do all to the glory of God."
(1Corinthians 10:31)
Therefore ~ make every moment count for all eternity.

"But our God is in the heavens;
he hath done whatsoever he hath pleased."
We praise Your Holy Name,
Precious Heavenly Father.
Teach us to number our days
and grant us understanding of what
Your will is for our lives
so that we may bring honor and glory to Your name.
We know that life is short, therefore,
may our hearts be tender to this life You have blessed us with
and those around us.

~ Debbie ~ 

I'm joining the party with Stephanie at
Roses of Inspiration


Stephanie said...

Oh Mom, the last part of this post really pierced my heart. How many times do we wish we knew the future because if we knew what tomorrow, the next week, or the next year held we might live differently. And yet you said it so well... "God doesn't allow us a glimpse into the future, but He does command us to live our lives to His glory."

This was suh a wonderful and powerful reminder to live each day as though it were a gift...because it is - it's a gift from the good Lord. I am once again reminded to make the most of every opportunity that God gives me.

Thank you for sharing this with Roses of Inspiration. Love you!

Camille said...

Beautiful post my friend. Thank you for sharing from your heart these words of wisdom that are keenly felt out of your own experience. Yes, truly...may we make the most of each day that the Lord gives. How wonderful it is to know that HE has them each in His perfectly capable and loving hands. In His Love, Camille

FlowerLady Lorraine said...

This beautiful post really touched my heart! My eyes are filled with tears, and my throat is tight.

Each day is truly a precious gift. It is up to us how we spend each day.

Thank you for this uplifting and encouraging post filled with lovely photos and wonderful scripture.

Love, hugs & prayers ~ FlowerLady

Debby Ray said...

Debbie...these are such beautiful, heartfelt words of someone who knows all about this...and that would be you, my friend. You are so right when you say that we should all live our lives as if it might be the last one we have. Oh I hope to get better at that very thing! It seems to be so easy to take things and people for granted, don't you think? But I just want to say that you were so blessed to be given that moment with your mom and dad...that night before surgery. It's almost you were putting them to bed, like they no doubt did for you all those years you were a child, growing up. When you described the moment that you got ready for bed and then slipped back into their bedroom to "tuck them in" so to speak, my heart melted. God gave you that special moment in time...a gift just for you, since He already knew what the next days would bring. Thank you for this beautiful reminder to live each day "like we were dying" ...just like the words to the song says.

Praying God's comfort and peace still remains as you continue to mourn your sweet dad. Hugs :)

Love, Debby

Vicky Hunt said...

Thank you Debbie for sharing this beautiful and thought provoking post. How very true that we do not know when our last moment will be on this beautiful Earth God placed us on. It does truly make one want to live each moment filled with love and joy and to pass along that love and joy to those we speak to. I truly do try to live each day to the fullest but of course, there are those days. Your post has helped perk me up as I have been feeling a little down lately. The ebbs and flows of life are just too much at times and it comes through in my thoughts and feelings. Your memory of your last night with your father was so beautiful. Thank you for sharing. Have a blessed, bright, and beautiful day! And, by the way...lovely photos! Is this your yard?

Hugs, Vicky

Sylvia said...

So beautifully written,Debbie. MY heart goes out to you. Each day is a new one given to use mercifully from our heavenly father. Yes, every moment counts in our lives for we never know when it will come to and end. Sharing your grief for I know how it is to lose a father and Mother, time helps but they will always be in your heart and thoughts, and one day you will be reunited again. Your photo's are so pretty and I love the verses you used.
Praying your days will be blessed,

hobbyloes said...

This beautiful post is so touching.
It is so true: time belongs to God. It's good you don't know the end of your days, it's in the hands of the Lord.
Thank you for sharing these beautiful verses with us.
Have a blessed day.

Anonymous said...

Debbie, times like the one you are now experiencing shows how Our Lord gives us the comfort we need through His Word. We are here for today. Our God gives us today fans tells us not to think any further, because when we do, we lose sight of Him.

You were there when you needed to be there. You experienced the moments of prayer with you family. And you were able to say good bye to your father.

You lived the moments just the way Our Lord guided you to.

My prayers are with you dear lady.


Melanie said...

Such a beautiful, inspiring post, Debbie. We don't have a promise of tomorrow but we have a promise that God is with us today. God bless you.

Joyful said...

Such a heartfelt and beautiful post Debbie. I often think about exactly what you have written about. It comes from grower older and losing loved ones before their time. It makes me ponder my own use of my limited time here on earth and how I relate to loved ones. There is so much more I want to do but time is limited and energy is limited. I can only do the best with what I have.

But your words "If we only knew what the next moment held for us in our lives, would we do things differently? " touched me. I try very hard not to speak words of anger or words I will regret. I also try to let my loved ones know I love and care for them.

God bless you dear Debbie. I know we often question ourselves when loved ones die but you did the best you could at that time believing your dad would be a new man. Now he is a new man. I'm sure he knew and understsood the love you had for him. Big hugs. xx

Joyful said...

Oh, I should just say I believe that we are "appointed" once to die as the scripture says. My comment about "losing loved ones before their time" then is just an expression. It means losing people much younger than me. Hugs. xx

Linda said...

{{{Debbie}}}--you and your family have been in my prayers. I surely can understand what you are saying...thank you for your kind words about your father...

When my father in law was admitted to the hospital with a heartattack--we were leaving and I turned around and said, "I will see you tomorrow, love you." He goes, "Love you too (which he never said) and Linda, No you won't. Keep on moving out the door, see you on the other side."

No sooner than we got in to our small apartment, we got the call he had passed. 21 years later, and that still is in my heart. (and tears to my eyes and hard to discuss).

Blessings to you sweet friend...Blessings

Celestina Marie said...

My Dearest Debbie, this post has touched my heart as only you can do. Reading your post tonight I also shared it with my hubby. Each and every moment of our lives could be the last and each word we speak to another could be our last. Let all we do be for the Glory of God reflecting his grace. Thank you for sharing your heart and touching mine.
Keeping you and your precious family in my prayers.
Love to you and many blessings, CM

Anonymous said...

This touched my heart deeply Debbie. We have been through 3 deaths recently and one friend is in hospice care starting this week. I think daily of leaving here and all I want to leave behind as my legacy. I know heaven will be glorious, but I so want to share Christ's love more deeply and freely each day than I did the day before.
Thank you for the many Scripture verses you posted. I am going to go through them again before I fall off to sleep.
Have a blessed evening dear Debbie,
Hugs from Shirley

kitty@ Kitty's Kozy Kitchen said...

You always share your wisdom with us, dear friend, even when you are grieving. Thank you so very much for sharing from your heart these special passages with us. I am presently reading Psalms and I will go back and reread the ones that you mentioned.
You were a wonderful daughter to your dear Dad and I'm sure those hugs, kisses and love were greatly appreciated. Bless you, dear Debbie.

Sue said...

Such a beautiful encouraging post Debbie, these thoughts just flowed straight from your heart to my heart, since learning of a friend whose cancer has aggressively returned I have begun to realize more than ever of how precious our life here on earth is! The scripture verses you have shared our so timely. Thank you for sharing your heart, please know you are still in my thoughts and prayers.

doodles n daydreams said...

Life is a precious gift and one to be lived fully day by day. Unfortunately we are often getting older before we realise how finite life is. This is a very timely post and beautifully written.


Linda said...

Life is precious and should never be taken for granted, nor should people. Beautiful post, dear Debbie, thank you.

Linda said...

Life is precious and should never be taken for granted, nor should people. Beautiful post, dear Debbie, thank you.

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

And the only hope is in Jesus Christ who came all the way down to earth, clothed himself in the rages of humanity so we could wear robes of glory. This life IS fragile, our souls are housed in the most fragile of organic matter. But the soul shall soar to a new level because of HIM. What awaits us who believe? No eye,no ear, no mind has ever or will ever conceive what He has for us. But these words you share are wise because something tells me we are in a dress rehearsal for the real show...Debbie, I wish you continued peace and growth as you go through this process.

Many hugs to you dearest Debbie, Anita

M.K. said...

Such good words and good reminders, Debbie. Father's Day is Sunday, and I find myself thinking of my own daddy as I read your post. I'm so sorry for your loss. But you will see each other again, and have eternity to enjoy each other's company, without Death ever rearing its ugly head again! No more death. Those verses you shared are so interesting! We are to maximize the time on this fallen Earth -- why? Because there is evil here. There's no evil in heaven. But the evil here means that God has placed us here for very specific purposes, very specific work. How often we fail! I know I look at the hard work of building up His kingdom, and I feel weary and want to crawl back into my shell, stay at home, and drink tea :)

Much love to you as God walks you through this valley. May you feel His comfort and your own daddy's love for you, from heaven.

Anne Payne said...

Sweet Debbie, My heart aches over your loss and this journey of grief you are walking. Know that I am praying for you, and can understand the depth of your pain. I'm sorry to say we can't go back and have a do over. I sure wish we could but we just have to live today in Christ and make sure we have said loving words, give hugs and kisses, and always make sure our loved ones know how much we care about them. Big cyber hugs for you, my friend. I wish we could sit and share a cup of tea and a good cry together. May the Lord bless you and bring you comfort.

Sola Scriptura said...

What a wonderful reminder. Thank you for sharing this. As my due date approaches to welcome our child into the world, I have been reflecting much on life. It is so fragile, we need to be thankful for each breath He gives us. As it says in Acts 17:25 "He Himself gives to all mankind life and breath and everything." God is good and how lovely it is that He gave you so many days and years to share with your dad.

Linda Walker said...

Dear Debbie,
So beautifully written, so heartfelt and full of faith, hope and encouragement. Thankfully my tissues are still next to me (from your last very touching post). I find that we are having the same discussions here having lost loved ones ourselves. Many of our friends are also experiencing similar, difficult situations. May God bless you and your family as you grieve the loss of your dad. He is always with you.
Sending love,

Marilyn @ MountainTopSpice said...

What a most beautiful and touching post dearest Debbie! The pictures you shared were absolutely incredibly beautiful, and my heart was walking with you through that very difficult and unexpected time with your father's passing, and yet, how the Lord allowed you to have that special time with him the night before. What a timely reminder to redeem our time wisely, because we do not know when our time shall come to pass from this life to the next. Wonderful verses of scripture, beautiful pictures, and your inspiring thoughts have painted a beautiful picture of the hope we have in Christ, and the reminder to make the most of our time here on earth. May the Lord continue to bless you, my dear friend, as the seasons of life come and go, as in Ecc. 3:1-15, and may we allow each of those seasons to glorify the Lord in all we do. Much love and hugs to you my friend!

Ann at eightacresofeden said...

Dearest Debbie. I am still new to your blog but still reading and aware of what you have faced in recent weeks with the passing of your father. I was so very sorry to read this news after discovering your blog and being so inspired by your writing and love for the Lord. I lost my father in 2001. I never got to say goodbye. The last time I saw him was in 1994. I lived in New Zealand and he was in England in hospital after a bout of pneumonia. He was on the road to recovery when he had a cardiac arrest. It happened so suddenly that my mother had been on the way to the hospital for her daily visit not knowing he was gone. I was frantically booking a flight home, traveling with a 15 month old not knowing whether my dad had ever given his life to Christ even though he attended church. It was a very sweet moment when I found out from my sister that a Godly couple visiting dad in hospital had challenged him regarding his salvation not knowing these were to be his final days and he assured them he had committed his life to Christ. My sister found a Bible in his jacket pocket. Dad only read the newspaper so to hear this was pure joy and I look forward to seeing him again in Heaven.
Your blog today resonated with me. Our family has been through a traumatic time recently which had the potential to be a bad news story but praise God turned out to be a good news story. The worst 25 hours of my life and something I never expected would happen to our family. But what satan intended for evil God used for good. An event which for sure made me seriously reflect on my life and to take measure of my days, particularly the days I have with my children. I will email you to tell you more as I am not ready to write about it on my blog yet as it is still early days but yes, since that day I am determined to make every moment count for eternity.

Kim said...

Oh, Debbie, I had not realized that he never woke up after the surgery. I have a lump in my throat, thinking about you and the last moment you spoke to your dad. My dad is dealing with health problems, and I know that life is so very fragile. Sometimes it really hurts to be alive on this planet. So much struggle and pain. Thank God for His amazing plan for our future.

Debbie Nolan said...

Dear Debbie- I am so sorry to read about your dad. I know God's love knows no bounds and I am sure you are comforted in His love. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. Take care dear. Hugs

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Sweetest Debbie, thank you so kindly for visiting my blog. Yes, I am back and my roses were sensational. Now I am home from holiday to mark yet another magical summer here at home, but today, I must tend to my garden! THE WEEDS took over!

Enjoy a quiet and peaceful day in the Lord's garden. Anita

living from glory to glory said...

Hello, I have read this with a great new inspired breath of taking this day and moment and using it wisely.You have once again reminded us what is important and how fragile and special each day is and to appreciate each relationship. You have learned much and have lossed much...
This will be your Daddys first Fathers Day in Heaven (tears falling)
xo Yours, Roxy

CherylQuilts said...

Dearest Debbie, I have now read your blog at least two times. It is beautiful and so full of emotion...you've touched us all. And those of us who are older and who have lost a beloved dad (or mom) truly understand the loss and grief, even as we have assurance of their salvation. What beautiful photos you've shared, but I especially love the precious passages of Scripture that comfort and remind us to number our days. We truly have no guarantee of our next breath, and it's so important to keep short accounts and to appreciate each moment and live for Him and His glory. My heart aches for you, as I remember having lost my dear and precious dad, a man who was loved by so many and mourned by them as well. I remember also not being able to speak at his funeral/memorial services. The words would not have come out but for the tears that would flow. And as we approach Father's Day, it will be a very hard day. And when I read about how you wondered about wanting to say more, I remember that too. It's always a struggle to want to say one more thing. But God's timing is perfect, and we truly are a mist...here today and gone. And praise God that you are a living testimony of how to grieve as you share your heart and wonderful Hope for today and the future. May God continue to uphold you and give you peace moment by moment, dear friend! And let the tears flow, because God understands and knows our pain, having suffered the death of His Dear Son. Tender hugs and much love to you and your family!

Anonymous said...

Amen! Your words touched my heart. Oh if we would only remember these truths! Sometimes I do forget and then time slips by without notice. Praying for you and your family.

Robyn said...

Oh my, Debbie. I just saw this now in my email box and so glad I did. You are on my mind each and every day and I'm so glad you penned this beautiful message. It's very powerful and will serve as a daily reminder to be good to all beings on earth and remember that everyone is struggling and no one knows what tomorrow may bring.
My sweet friend, please know you are loved and prayers are being said for you. Take good care. xoxo

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

Your loss has already been used by our Lord to encourage others through this lovely post. The scriptures you used are so familiar and yet we need to be reminded to read them over and over and act on their lovely words. Thank you for sharing your heart.

Dee said...

What a beautiful post and most definitely food for thought. I was so sorry to hear about your father and you're so right, we don't know about tomorrow. You have so much wisdom, Debbie and I thank you for sharing it through your blog. Blessings to you... :)

Celestina Marie said...

Dear Debbie, just wanted to stop back by again and say hello. I know this day might have been difficult so soon after the loss of your dear father. My prayers are with you and may God keep your heart in his hands.
Blessings my friend, CM

Kelly-Anne said...

Oh...dearest Debbie! How I appreciated your post on the fragility of life today... This is something I too have been pondering lately, from last Thursday to be exact... You see, a family we know lost their precious son the Wednesday afternoon - he was swept downstream crossing a rough river after visiting friends... Oh! My heart aches for them and I can only imagine their terrible grief and pain! Praise the Lord that they are saved and that they rely upon His grace, because they can have the peace that only He can give during this time of heart wrenching loss... Debbie, this tragic circumstance has caused me to reflect more deeply on how short and tender life is! Oh! May Jesus continually remind us to cherish every moment and pour love into the lives around us every moment of everyday, for how are we to know when our season, or the season of a loved one, has come to an end...? Death in itself does not frighten me, for I know what lies ahead and my heart rejoices to know my King is waiting for me! But it is good to be reminded to redeem our time here on this earth and indeed make it count for something in Eternity!
Please know I continue to lift you and your dear family up to the Father in prayer!
Thank you for this beautiful, meaningful post - you have blessed and encouraged me!
Joyfully in Christ!

Vee said...

Thank you for these scriptures. I know that you have found them enlightening, even comforting. There is nothing like the loss of a parent to cause us to ponder the deeper truths of life. Somehow, because you trust God, I hope that you know that the way you handled those last communications was just the way it should have been. And how good of The Lord to keep the future veiled; otherwise, we would be in such a dither. Praying ongoing comfort for your mother and you and all your family.

Judy at GoldCountryCottage said...

Debbie, this was a beautiful post. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear dad. I know what high hopes you and your family must have had for his recovery after surgery. My mom was so sick from heart trouble as far back as I can remember and after her surgery she was like a new person only to be taken from cancer not long after. Yes, life is so fragile and we must learn to not take anything for granted and know that we will see them again. Bless you..Judy

Laurie said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my sweet Dad in February. My comfort is that I know he is with my Mom now. I try to be grateful for each and every day I have with my loved ones.

Mindy said...

Each day truly is a gift, one that we should open and live to the fullest. Our time with loved ones is precious and something we need to treasure as you did with your Dad. Hope this summer brings continued peace and healing to your sweet heart Debbie.

Alex said...

My heart goes out to you, especially in the light of your courageous words here.
So very true, as well. I didn't know Stephanie is your daughter till today!
What a sweet blessing she is!

Celestina Marie said...

Hi Debbie, stopping back by to say hello and always a blessing to read once again your beautiful post. Wishing you a wonderful and blessed day.
Sending hugs and friendship, cm

Kim said...

Sitting here in the early hours of the morning watching the day break I am refreshed by your glorious music and your glorious reflections. I make it a point to say "I love you" to everyone each day....one never knows what the future holds, does one. In saying that I don't really want to know what the future holds for me, it would take away the little delights, the thankfulness each day brings. You are a blessing to so many people all around the world, Debbie. I think of you and your lovely family often. I pray that each day our Heavenly Father will wrap you with a hug filled with comfort and love, as only He can; as you walk along the path of life without your dad.

White Lace and Promises said...

Oh bless you my friend. May God bring you comfort in these times. My mom and dad passed away within 6 months of each other. I cared for them for 3 years before they went Home. I must say it was the most difficult time in my life but I had moments that I will treasure for ever and some I'd rather forget. I love this post and it is very touching to my heart. I think we realize our own mortality when we lose our parents. I know I have. Prayers for your days ahead.

Denise said...

my precious friend, so very sorry for your great loss. I love you.

Anonymous said...

Dear Debbie,

I found your blog through your darling daughter's blog. And I must say it was God ordained. Every day I search your blog labels for what I need for that day. And each day is a winner. Today I read about Martha and Mary and the need for time with HIM to be first in our lives. Then I moved on to Fight The Good Fight. The Lord really spoke to me today. What encouragement! Thank you for your obedience to our Lord and for your willingness to serve HIM through this blog. You have truly touched my life, and helped me move through some difficult situations right now.
I send to you and yours my deepest sympathy in the loss of your dear father.
May God bless you with comfort and strength during this time of adjustment.
Ginger Smith
Georgia USA

Anonymous said...

What a gift you are ... I am fairly new to your blog and I am aware of what you have faced in recent weeks as well... I love this post .. thank you sweet friend..

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